I’m sure like many of you, I didn’t see any fat positive role models growing up. I can contribute a lot of my insecurities about my body and sexuality to the lack of authentic fat people in the media. Since defining my own confidence and learning to accept this body for what it is, I’ve made an effort to showcase what being fat AND sexy means to me. With the help of Adam & Eve, I decided to really sit down and talk about fat sexuality in a blog post.
First and foremost, I want to thank Adam & Eve for sponsoring this post and sending along some incredible lingerie. Wearing lingerie and learning to feel comfortable in a state of undress has really been an integral part of owning my sexuality. If you’d like to see all of the pieces I got + an in depth review, check out my haul below!
In an age where we constantly see thin actors/actresses use fat suits to portray themselves as “ugly”, “undesirable” and “unwanted”, it can be an act of rebellion to love your fat body. Fatness has a track record of being portrayed as all the descriptors I mentioned above, and very rarely do we see an alternative. Even using the sentence “fat and sexy” feels like I’m something too politically charged, too risky for the internet or this blog. With everything we’ve learned this year, the incredible movements that have been so publicly accepted, why does fatness still get left out?
I wanted to show you what fat sexuality looks like to me. It’s getting in form fitting, risky lingerie from companies like Adam & Eve and taking a million selfies. It’s seeing my body from “unflattering” angles and loving the look of me. It’s not wearing shapewear to hide my figure, and loving myself anyway. Heck, sometimes it’s even buying myself sex toys and enjoying some me time.
Some of you may look at my photos and think “oh my GOD, she looks like me”. If it does, I hope that makes you rethink your own body when it comes to sex appeal. If nothing else, remember how subjective sexuality and sexual desires are. We have seen many versions of “the perfect body” throughout the centuries, and that has taught me how little mass media really knows about sexiness. We are all deserving of self love, skinny or fat. We all deserve to love ourselves with and without clothing on. We all have desirable bodies.
Again, I want to give a huge thank you to Adam & Even for sponsoring this post. Getting new lingerie as a fat person is so much more than buying new clothing, new shoes or new accessories. It’s actively owning your body for everything that it is, and realizing that you’re fat AND sexy!